How do I talk to a new boyfriend about my history of HPV?
This is the first serious relationship I have been in since being diagnosed with high risk HPV. My recent test have been negative and it is currently dormant but I need to share this with my soon to be new partner. I’m not sure how or when, he is ready for sex.
the best thing to do is just be straight forward with him, if he gets mad say “would you rather me sleep with u & NOT tell u??”
just let him know, hopefully he will understand.![](http://helpforgenitalwarts.com/genital-warts-treatment/
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if not, he wasnt the right one for u hunny
GOOD LUCK!! i hope it all works out
This is a very difficult question. If you bring it up too early then does this put the whole new relationship in jeopardy? On the other hand, not telling him is irresponsible and not acceptable.
Being well informed is particularly important. HPV in some form is extremely common. 90% of all adults have been infected. As you probably know, “high risk” HPV is high risk for cervical cancer. That particular strain may have no symptoms in a male, so really it is impossible to know if your partner has been infected – until he has another partner and she has a positive PAP.
Here’s some good news. HPV is a virus. Much more like a cold than like herpes. With HPV you can recover from being infected and be completely well…incapable of infecting your partner. After having a positive PAP you probably had a colposcopy which in most cases is curative. Knowing if you are cured for good will not be entirely known until you’ve had a couple of negative PAPs over the next couple years.
So what to do? Wait until you are comfortable enough to have this frank conversation before you have sex with him. (If he’s dating you, he wants sex with you) You fortunately control when the relationship progresses to sex. The choice is either to wear condoms or take the chance that you probably are cured and go without. If he choses to take the risk, he would have to promise that he will wear condoms with new partners until you have another negative PAP. Once you have another negative PAP you can forget this whole problem.
Good luck.
PS This whole strategy is NOT a good idea if you have herpes since herpes resides in the a nerve ending and never goes away.
the best thing to do is to be honest because eventally it will come out, just talk with him and let him know