Starting new relationship with genital herpes?
I have recently started a new relationship with a great guy, but he is the first guy I have started seeing since I was diagnosed with genital herpes. I am just looking for information and tips to reduce the risk of transmission… I have started taking Valtrex, and we would obviously use a condom, but he is still concerned about the risk… I am wondering how big his risk is/what can we do or not do?
condoms, birth control, whatever…they don’t work… don’t have sex. Period. best way of not transmitting it. if u think i’m wrong or stupid or something, go ahead, give him genital herpes. But dont say no one said it wont happen because i just did.
Take one 500 mg valtrex a day and if you have or feel like you’re gonna have an outbreak, take double. he can contract the disease even when you don’t have an outbreak. when me and my husband of a year and a half started dating 5 years ago, i told him up front and he was really cool about it. to this day (we never used condoms) he has not shown any symptoms. but, you know it can take years for a person to show symptoms after contracting it. I think ya’ll using condoms is an excellent idea. I don’t really know what the odds are for him contracting it, but you’re both doing everything in your power to prevent it. I would tell both of you don’t worry about it and keep practicing the things you’re doing now. I don’t think it’s likely he’ll get it.
just make sure you know your body, u should be able to tell if an outbreak is coming, and make sure u have no sexual contact with him even if u just think your getting an outbreak, but if u are taking the valtrex everyday hopefully you don’t get any outbreaks, also make sure an outbreak is 100% gone before u have sex again, when u think it’s done wait another day just to be safe. And sorry to tell u this but condoms don’t really protect against herpes, but i guess they could help, maybe!
you should be okay with condoms. i would consult your doctor on this issue. to be on the safe side.
You should know that there is a small chance that you could pass herpes on even if you use a condom. Herpes is passed through skin contact with your genitals and condoms don’t cover all of the areas that herpes can affect.
Your taking Valtrex which should reduce your chances of passing herpes on and it can prevent out breaks from happening. You should also never have sex if you even slightly think your getting or have signs of an out break. Be honest with your partner about your out breaks and tell them if you think you are getting or having one, I’m sure he would appreciate that. Maybe even leave him some information for him to look at. At least he knows that you are a good person, he just has to look past the fact that you have genital herpes which is hard for some guys to do. Ultimatly it’s his choice to make if he wants to continue with the relationship or not.
I have oral and genital herpes.